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Stop Asking When I’m Having “Baby Number 2”

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I am in my mid-twenties with a preschool-aged child and have been married to my husband for just over a year now - so it’s time I had another baby, right? *insert eye roll here*
At our wedding people were asking if I was already pregnant again (drinking champagne from the bottle soon stopped those questions). We were asked if we were going to have a super romantic honeymoon baby. A couple of months after the wedding people were checking in and asking if I was pregnant with said honeymoon baby. A year on, people are tapping their watches, commenting on the age gap and generally getting involved in our private business.
Compare that to when my son was still very little and people were telling me that I absolutely shouldn’t have another baby. Some people even commented that THEY weren’t ready for me to have another baby (?!) but my answer has always been the same:
That is between me, my husband and my uterus.
Thankfully, the word “uterus” seems to stop most people …

Endometri...what?

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Endometriosis...you've either heard of it or you haven't. I had never heard of it until I got diagnosed with it that it. Now I have mentioned about endometriosis before in my post on "being a chronically ill parent"... But this post is dedicated to endo, with coping strategies, tips and tricks.

According to the NHS, "Endometriosis is a condition where the tissue that lines the womb (endometrium) is found outside the womb, such as in the ovaries and fallopian tubes."

My story with endometriosis (or endo as I prefer to call it) I guess started at 8 when I started my periods (young, eh?). I remember being so confused at that age, and I remember one thing that really upset me was not being able to do my swimming lessons at school (there was no way at 8 years of age I was using a tampon). 

As I grew older my periods became more and more painful and my mum would say; "welcome to womanhood my baby, it's normal for it to hurt,"…

Mental Health Monday: Why I let my daughter see me cry...

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Olivia has just turned 2, and she's already so receptive to other people's emotions. She has been from a very young age. If she sees or hears a baby crying, she goes over to them and tries to comfort them in her own adorable way. She understands that certain things make mummy sad or happy, and she tells me when she is sad or when she is happy.

I honestly don't believe we would be at this stage if she hadn't ever seen me cry (on numerous occasions).

I want her to know that it's okay to cry, and that she should never feel ashamed of crying. Crying doesn't make you weak, it makes you strong. You're releasing a lot of emotion in the only way you can, and if you didn't release it, you'd be worse off. You would bottle it up and the upset would turn into anger. I'm okay with Olivia seeing me upset.

There are many, many times when I'm upset because of Olivia. Maybe it's sleep deprivation or just a general feeling that…

When Potty Training Finally Falls Into Place

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I wrote a few months ago about how much my family was struggling with the lack of progress with potty training in “When Potty Training Doesn’t Go to Plan”. Writing that piece cleared my head and I was completely happy to put my son back into his nappies for however long he needed until he was ready to do this. As it happens, that wasn’t very long at all!

It all fell into place very suddenly when my darling boy decided that he would go butt naked out into the garden (which backs onto a road) and stand at the gate and talk to ALL THE NEIGHBOURS.Now, I’m not particularly prudish but there are 47 houses that can see into my garden (yes, I counted) and I only know 3 of them. So naturally, I grabbed the first thing to hand to cover him up a little and on went the big boy pants.

I fully expected them to be soaked within minutes or poo’d in fairly soon but it didn’t happen… at all.
He has been dry in the day since that moment.
Before I had my very own toddler, I beli…

8 things I never thought I'd hear myself say when I became a mum!

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Before you become a parent, you’re filled with this sick kind of optimism, but nowadays I like to call it blind and plainly idiotic naivety. You have this perfect idea of motherhood and everything it entails. You have all of these admirable morals and strict rules that you absolutely will stick to, such as no TV or no swearing or whatever else. But try as you might, parenting will break you. You won’t be the mum you set out to be, no matter how hard you try. AND THAT IS OKAY!

So, in celebration of how awesome being a mum is, here are my top 8 things that I never thought I’d hear myself say when I became a mum.



I apologise in advance...


“Why have you done a poo on the floor, RIGHT NEXT TO YOUR POTTY?”




Oh potty training. It's a delight, it really is...

“Stop eating your bogeys”
Yep. Accompanied by my cringing after she does exactly that and says "mmmmm" and licks her lips while she does it. Pure, grotesque cringe.
“No thanks, I want to wipe my own b…

Last minute Father's Day crafts

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Have you forgotten that it's Father's Day on Sunday 17th June?

Left it a bit late to get anything or just stuck for ideas? I hope it's not just me!
Don't panic... I've picked some crafty ideas for your toddlers and pre-schoolers which I thought looked really fun and that can be made from things you have at home.

Who says you have to spend a fortune to give a thoughtful, personalised gift from your little one?

1) I love this footprint art, this is sure to make Daddy smile and you could make this for Grandfathers too!

https://www.craftymorning.com/following-daddys-shoes-fathers-day-craft/



2) I love how simple this is. Your little one could make a lovely picture, no matter their age.

http://clareslittletots.co.uk/2016/06/finger-painted-fathers-day-card/


3) Wondering what to do with those spare paper plates you have in the back of the cupboard? Look no further! You could even make this world cup themed!

http://www.busybeekidscrafts.com/Worlds-B…

Sarah's Birth Story - How We Met

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Dear Olivia,

It's 4:30am on a Saturday and I've just woken up with pains in my abdomen. I had been having false labour contractions for about three weeks prior to that (you were exactly a week late) so I wasn't too quick to wake up daddy and tell him that I thought it was for real this time. Instead I went downstairs, used the toilet, bounced on my birthing ball and put on the nightie that I wanted to go to the hospital in.

I was timing the contractions and seemed to be having them about every 7 minutes, and they weren't too painful at that point.

At about 5:30am I ran a bath. In the run up to having you I was adamant that I desperately wanted a water birth, and thought that the warm water would soothe the pain from the contractions. I got in the bath for all of about 5 minutes before deciding that it was actually irritating me and I didn't want to be in water at all!

It's now 6am, contractions are speeding up a bit, once every 5 or …

Mental Health Monday: my BPD story

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BPD: the world through my eyes I guess it all started when I was 13 and my mum took me to the doctors, I remember sat feeling the most vulnerable I’ve ever felt in my life “ There’s something wrong with her, she has this insane temper…now I know they have mood swings at this age but this is something else” my mum said to the doctor, I couldn’t bare to look either of them in the eye, long and short of it is I was referred to the child and adolescent mental health team, who to be quite frank didn’t really do much just started me on fluoxetine and at the ripe age of 13 my journey with anti-depressants began.
At 15 the journey took an unexpected turn as I found myself on the phone to Samaritans as I had lost all hope and was prepared to hang myself that evening. I still remember that conversation word for word, and I’m eternally grateful for Samaritans. “ It’s just anxiety and depression, try not to worry lets try you on a different anti-depressant” the child a…

Guilty Mummy Moments

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Let's face it, we all have those moments when we all just want 5 minutes of peace, or a snack to ourselves or even just a wee in peace! But how far will we really go to get this? We've asked on social media and have compiled our top 10 'Guilty Mummy Moments'

1. My girls hate onions. there was 1 muffin left. I told them it was a onion muffin so I could eat it all to myself.
2. I ate my son's last curly wurly the other day and told him it had melted so I had to bin it.
3. I hide ben and jerry's ice cream inside a frozen pea bag so I don't have to share with kids!!
4. I put my daughter to bed and persuaded my husband that it had taken me 2hrs to settle her and that’s why he had to do all the housework by himself... infact id been sat in the hallway, whilst she was asleep (had taken 10mins to get her down) watching Netflix on my tablet just so I could have some peace.
5. My daughter is at nursery until 3.30pm each day... I will not pick h…

What is there for toddlers at LEGOLAND Windsor Resort?

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Recently as part of the army's welfare service while my husband is deployed, we were invited on a free trip to LEGOLAND! So, of course, we went - who would pass that up?! - and we loved it! But with a two year old in tow, most of my day was spent trying to navigate the toddler friendly rides and attractions at LEGOLAND, which was no easy feat.

One thing I will say is that if you are planning on going with really little ones, don't go in half term! It wasn't excessively busy throughout the resort but it did make queue times pretty long!
Duplo Valley... Duplo Train This very short train ride is the perfect introduction to rides for your toddler! Olivia was itching to get on the Skyrider but couldn't because of the height restriction, so the Duplo Train was the perfect substitute! You have to accompany your tot but this is a sure win for toddlers going to LEGOLAND! Fairy Tale Brook I didn't get to go on this one in the end and I'm absolu…