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Mental Health Monday: Speak Up

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Although we may have all spent our teenage years trying desperately to get away from embarrassing parents, parents are a class of people that we will all come across in everyday life. Hopefully, many of you reading this post are parents - mothers or fathers. It's so important to understand and raise awareness of not only maternal mental health but of parental mental health generally.


Particularly important is raising awareness in our workplaces, because of the progress that has been made towards diversity and equality across this sphere generally - though much still needs to be done. Gender equality is increasing and this progress cannot be undone by a lack of support or awareness of the issues faced by new mothers and fathers, who, of course, make up a significant proportion of our working population.

Work-related stress is something which has affected so many people, so it is increasingly crucial to make sure that parents have no further stress upon r…

Putting yourself first

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So one thing I’ve noticed recently is that, as mums, we rarely prioritise ourselves. We put everything before our wellbeing, seriously…even the washing comes before putting ourselves first and my question is why? Why is it “normal” to be over tired and under-appreciated…when did it become acceptable for mums to feel this way?

Personally, I believe that society has set such an unrealistic goal of “the perfect mum” and with constant derogatory remarks as to whether you’re a “stay at home mum” or a “working mum”, it makes sense that us mums aren’t looking after ourselves as much as we could be.
We are care givers first and foremost to our little ones, but how can we care for them when nowadays most mums are neglecting their own needs? Think about it, how many times have you sat down and had a drink and 5 minutes to yourself today? We need to put ourselves first to help give our little ones what’s best. It’s like running a car on empty.
Recently, I decided to …

Does social media make it harder to be good mothers?

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Since the evolution of Facebook, Twitter, Instagram etc., millions of parents have flocked to social media to show their family and friends pictures of their little ones, experiences they've had and problems they’ve encountered along the way. This may seem harmless, but picture this...

Mum one- Only posts on social media about the amazing things her child does, pictures of her child being perfectly behaved. Only shares experiences where she felt triumphant as a parent. Lives a seemingly perfect life with her perfect child. Meanwhile, her toddler has stressed her out all day, nothing has been done around her house and once her toddler has gone to bed, she gets to finally sit down to hot food for the first time today.

Mum two- Checks mum one's social media frequently, amazed at how well she is coping with motherhood. She scrolls through her social media posts in awe, as her toddler pulls out the clothes she has folded three times already and screams a…

Thinking about you...

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Thinking about you…The following words are a cliche, but I promise they’re all true…
I never really knew who I was, or what I wanted to be until the day I held you. At first, just your existence made me feel complete as you thrived from within my tummy. But since you’ve been born, I love you more every day. Nothing beats being your Mummy.  I don’t think that I’d ever be able to fully describe the adoration that I have for you. But my sweet girl, I hope I’ll be able to prove it, in all of the things I do.  Knowing that I managed to make something, so unbelievably perfect fills me with pride.  I know that being a mummy can be daunting, almost scary at times- but I’m loving my little tour guide.  Showing you off to the world makes me so proud, you’re so beautiful, so intricate, so clever and so chatty. I don’t know what I did to deserve such an incredible princess, but I’ve never been so happy.  Your toothy grin and your little laugh- everything you do, I comp…

Confession: I didn't enjoy pregnancy

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This is a topic that many mums shy away from, but I'm here to tell you all that it is perfectly okay to say that, for whatever reason, you didn't enjoy being pregnant.

Whenever I make this controversial admission, I'm always met by the question of "did you have a rough pregnancy, then?", or, from people who know me and saw me most days of the pregnancy, the concession "yeah but you did have a lot of sickness".

First of all, my pregnancy really wasn't that difficult. It was emotionally hard, as I was battling depression and anxiety, a number of personal issues, and leading a highly stressful life with little to no support network. But physically, it was quite an easy pregnancy. I had some morning sickness at odd points throughout the pregnancy, but really not a lot. Possibly the worst complaint I have of my pregnancy was that I had reflux for the entirety of the last trimester, which had me downing Gaviscon by the bottle, …