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A daddy's view on postpartum mental illness...

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Hello everyone! I've been a bit quiet on the blog recently as my gorgeous husband is back from Afghanistan for a very short 12 days. 
But... making the most of him being back in the UK (currently in partially cloudy Clacton), I've roped him into doing an interview in what I hope will be the first of many in the Daddykind Corner segment of our blog! 
So we'll consider this a trial run on a topic for our usual #MentalHealthMonday posts...

What do you remember about your two girls being born?

Apart from them being 6 years apart? With Kiera I was being asked every two minutes if I was going to cry. I'd just got back from Afghanistan and that was when 3 guys from my regiment had just been killed. Kiera's nan was annoying me, asking if I was going to cry, and made a comment about me reading the newspaper story about my friends who had died in Afghanistan. She was very overbearing.
With Olivia, I remember playing Cotton Eye Joe at 6am while Sar…

5 top tips to reduce your household plastic wastage

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Many of us have been made more aware of our plastic usage since Blue Planet II was aired, and due to the 'blue planet effect' many people have begun to attempt to reduce their plastic wastage. I'm a big believer in looking after the environment and trying to live a sustainable lifestyle, so here are some top tips on reducing the waste and use of plastic in your home.



1. Try plastic free cleaning

White vinegar diluted with 3 parts water makes for a great surface cleaner. You can buy it in bulk to avoid buying cleaner in unnecessarily small cleaning bottles, plus buying in bulk means there's always some around and you're unlikely to be caught out with nothing to clean up with. Plus, if you're not keen on the vinegar smell, here's a tip - pop some vinegar in a big glass jar, and fill with citrus peels. The longer you leave it in the fridge, the stronger the citrus smell. Big efficiency, small cost.

2. Switch up your bathroom supplies

Why I'm happy being a single mum

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So, recently I have had friends all asking the same question... "Isn't it time you settled down?" And let's not forget dear old Aunt Barbara at the family meals asking why I'm still single. The reason to it all is because, in a warped kinda way, I'm happy being single.

The truth is I don't have the time for a relationship. I work full time and around caring for Oliver I am left with perhaps 5% free time - split that free time between friends and time to myself (that is 0%), and I am not prepared to sacrifice any of that on a relationship.  "You deserve to be happy,a dear friend said to me recently, and they are right. I DO deserve to be happy, but I replied to her by saying "but what makes you think I'm not happy?" I love the independence I have being a single mum and the freedom it gives me.

Freedom? Something I never thought that I would say in the same sentence as being a single mum, but the truth o…

My Menstrual Cup Changed My Life

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I got my first period when I was 12 and was perpetually embarrassed by periods for the next ten years. Ten whole years of negative feeling towards my body just doing its thing, like they do. The idea of a menstrual cup came up when I was around the same age, maybe 13 or so.

The brand that was mentioned was a Mooncup - and I kid you not, until I was 22 years old I thought they were exclusively for menstruating astronauts because you can’t change used tampons or pads in space. I also thought they were a medical device that was left in there for the duration of the period because… well… Space.
Needless to say, I was VERY wrong. Now I wish I had spent more than 3 seconds thinking this over as a teenager and actually done some research.
After deciding to use cloth nappies, a fairly natural progression from there is the use of cloth sanitary pads and other reusable menstrual products. I had seen other cloth nappy users mention “CSP” and “RUMPs” and one night, pinned und…

Mental Health Monday: Struggling With Depression or Anxiety?

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Today's blog post is a special contribution from Anna Kucirkova. Anna speaks 3 languages has a passion for kids and writing. While she has been to many places in Europe and South East Asia she still wants to explore the rest of the world.
Struggling with depression or anxiety? Here's what you need to know! Anxiety and depression are broad terms that can induce some anxiety just by researching and thinking about them. Oftentimes the two conditions overlap, which creates a confusing set of symptoms that both overwhelms and causes you to feel extremely low. 

If you believe that you may be affected by anxiety and/or depression, take a deep breath--you are not alone. The effects are serious but also fully manageable with the right tactics.

In this article, we’re going to examine the vicious combination of anxiety and depression to understand how they are related and how the latest research helps us understand the connection between them.
What Are Anxiety and …

5 reasons why I never want to be pregnant again!

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Babies are great... Okay, let's not get ahead of ourselves... They CAN be great, when they want to be. But most of the time they're either sucking the life out of you (LITERALLY) or shitting on you (AGAIN, LITERALLY) and I swear they enjoy every second of it!
But anyway, they can be great... I mean, who doesn't love babies? Pregnancy, however, is a whole different kettle of fish, and my god do I never want to do that again.
Here are my 5 reasons why! For someone who already had a lot of emotional issues, the heightened emotions of pregnancy made things even harder to cope with. It's actually pretty shit crying over silly things, or for no reason. And even if you feel like you're crying for a legitimate reason, other people don't take you seriously because you're pregnant, and they blame it on the hormones. Even if it is due to those nasty things, that doesn't make your feelings any less legitimate. Even if I was crying because th…

What to expect when you're NOT expecting!

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At least 3 of the Mummykind mummies were NOT expecting that they would soon be expecting (have I used the word "expecting" too many times yet?) and all for different reasons.

Harriet didn't think she could have children naturally. Neither did Amy due to the fact that she was taking Zoladex to undergo a chemical menopause - she ended up being the 1 in 100,000 that fall pregnant on that medication.

As for me, I didn't think I could, after being told by a really harsh sonographer that if I had PCOS it was very likely that I'd be infertile. As it turns out, I don't have PCOS and never did, but being on hormonal contraception caused me to have small pockets in my Fallopian tubes that appeared to be cysts. The exact nature of what they were is still unknown to me, but needless to say I stopped using hormonal contraception because of the effect it had on me.

Even though I stopped using the pill, I still wasn't expecting to fall pregna…