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Putting yourself first

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So one thing I’ve noticed recently is that, as mums, we rarely prioritise ourselves. We put everything before our wellbeing, seriously…even the washing comes before putting ourselves first and my question is why? Why is it “normal” to be over tired and under-appreciated…when did it become acceptable for mums to feel this way?

Personally, I believe that society has set such an unrealistic goal of “the perfect mum” and with constant derogatory remarks as to whether you’re a “stay at home mum” or a “working mum”, it makes sense that us mums aren’t looking after ourselves as much as we could be.
We are care givers first and foremost to our little ones, but how can we care for them when nowadays most mums are neglecting their own needs? Think about it, how many times have you sat down and had a drink and 5 minutes to yourself today? We need to put ourselves first to help give our little ones what’s best. It’s like running a car on empty.
Recently, I decided to start putting myself first …

Does social media make it harder to be good mothers?

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Since the evolution of Facebook, Twitter, Instagram etc., millions of parents have flocked to social media to show their family and friends pictures of their little ones, experiences they've had and problems they’ve encountered along the way. This may seem harmless, but picture this...

Mum one- Only posts on social media about the amazing things her child does, pictures of her child being perfectly behaved. Only shares experiences where she felt triumphant as a parent. Lives a seemingly perfect life with her perfect child. Meanwhile, her toddler has stressed her out all day, nothing has been done around her house and once her toddler has gone to bed, she gets to finally sit down to hot food for the first time today.

Mum two- Checks mum one's social media frequently, amazed at how well she is coping with motherhood. She scrolls through her social media posts in awe, as her toddler pulls out the clothes she has folded three times already and screams at the top of their lungs fo…

Thinking about you...

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Thinking about you…The following words are a cliche, but I promise they’re all true…
I never really knew who I was, or what I wanted to be until the day I held you. At first, just your existence made me feel complete as you thrived from within my tummy. But since you’ve been born, I love you more every day. Nothing beats being your Mummy.  I don’t think that I’d ever be able to fully describe the adoration that I have for you. But my sweet girl, I hope I’ll be able to prove it, in all of the things I do.  Knowing that I managed to make something, so unbelievably perfect fills me with pride.  I know that being a mummy can be daunting, almost scary at times- but I’m loving my little tour guide.  Showing you off to the world makes me so proud, you’re so beautiful, so intricate, so clever and so chatty. I don’t know what I did to deserve such an incredible princess, but I’ve never been so happy.  Your toothy grin and your little laugh- everything you do, I completely adore, no matter how…

Confession: I didn't enjoy pregnancy

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This is a topic that many mums shy away from, but I'm here to tell you all that it is perfectly okay to say that, for whatever reason, you didn't enjoy being pregnant.

Whenever I make this controversial admission, I'm always met by the question of "did you have a rough pregnancy, then?", or, from people who know me and saw me most days of the pregnancy, the concession "yeah but you did have a lot of sickness".

First of all, my pregnancy really wasn't that difficult. It was emotionally hard, as I was battling depression and anxiety, a number of personal issues, and leading a highly stressful life with little to no support network. But physically, it was quite an easy pregnancy. I had some morning sickness at odd points throughout the pregnancy, but really not a lot. Possibly the worst complaint I have of my pregnancy was that I had reflux for the entirety of the last trimester, which had me downing Gaviscon by the bottle, but even that isn't such…

Top tips for mums planning a wedding and honeymoon

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Wedding

Last Tuesday I tied the knot and became a wife! Crazy, I know. At the ripe old age of 22, I have taken myself securely off the market... Sorry, lads.

The day was absolutely wonderful, and I am amazed with how well my darling 17 month old daughter coped with all the late nights and lack of sleep. However, having her around did make certain pre-wedding things slightly more stressful, so if you can learn from my experiences, I hope it makes it much easier for anyone else in the same boat!

1. Don't attempt dress fittings with clingy children...

For my final fitting before the big day, myself and 3 bridesmaids all had to get to the bridal shop for final tweaks and adjustments. You would think that, in this situation, there are enough bridesmaids to go around to entertain the little one while mummy had her fitting. Except 2 of them were 50 minutes late, with no explanation. This is more of a choose reliable bridesmaids tip than a parenting one, but the struggle that occurred whi…

Is Santa Claus Damaging Children’s Mental Health?

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It’s a crazy concept, isn’t it? That our jolly Christmastime character could cause any harm at all. I have been thinking about this for some time now, although I am yet to implement operation Santa in my own home because my son is so young. This will be the first year for us and I am so excited to introduce the spark of magic but I am also very wary of starting down a road I’m not too sure I want to travel.
First and foremost, Christmas is a religious holiday and that should ALWAYS be respected and taught to children - they ought to know what they are celebrating.  Over the years that has taken a bit of a back seat for a lot of families but the values and spirit of Christmas remain unchanged. 
Now we are drawing closer to the festive season I am seeing more and more early birds on social media with their Christmas shopping already sorted. They have stacks and stacks of toys for their children and are posing questions like “Is this enough for my ___ year old?” and “How much of this shoul…

Have you checked your lemons, melons or mangoes? 

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As it is breast cancer awareness week, I thought i'd share my scare experience with our readers in the hope that it might encourage some of you to get checked out, if you're having any breast related worries!

A few months ago, I finally made the big step in getting myself checked out after having a boobie scare. Why am I telling you lucky lot about it?! Because changes to our breasts honestly need to be spoken about more!


How many of us ladies can honestly say that we check ourselves out frequently? When did you last check? I know that we're not quite as bad as the boys at checking ourselves... But I am very aware that I personally only ever used get round to doing it when I get reminded by online campaigns etc.

I saw the image above, on Facebook and decided that it was time to confront one of the changes I had noticed since having Florence nearly a year and a half ago. I knew that changes in your breasts and breast tissue was very common after large hormonal changes, like…